According to the recently published book “The 7 Stages of Marriage”, there are seven stages present in every marriage. I’ve always believed that there is an evolution and a development that occurs in the marital union – just as there are ages and stages in life, so there are in a marriage. Written by Dr. Rita DeMaria and Sari Harrar, this book focuses on how to happy couples can move through these different stages in a marriage to maintain the happiness and healthiness of their loving relationship.
How to Maintain
The difference between the 7 Stages of Marriage and many other marriage help books is that the target audience of this book is not the couple wondering if they are in a troubled relationship nor the couple that are struggling to heal old wounds. Instead, the audience is the happily married couple that wants to maintain their relationship, invigorate it or keep the connections between them open and fresh.
The Seven Stages of Marriage provides a practical, life-long map to help you keep your marriage working as the loving, mutually-beneficial partnership that it should be. Each stage has its normal developmental missions and tasks that you can identify and work through in many different ways. Once you identify the stage you are in (or the stages you may be between), you can choose some ways to address the issues you are having. Researchers are finding that marriage has long-term benefits: married people live longer, have more financial security, are healthier, have more sex and deal with stress more constructively. They have also found that marriage is a dynamic, changing relationship. Marriage is a journey. Having a map to guide you along the way is a useful tool. Remember that every journey is a unique adventure. Live and enjoy the stage you’re in and reap the benefits:
More quality time together
Lowered odds for divorce
Re-energized sex life
Flexibility to thrive, despite “irreconcilable differences”
Here are The Seven Stages of Marriage :
Passion – When you and your spouse are in the initial heat of the marriage and everything is fresh and new
Realization – The early passion of the marriage fades as the reality of day to day life sets in
Rebellion – Individual interests begin to reassert themselves as you and your spouse begin to find other ways to entertain yourself to escape the ho-hum of the daily grind – this is a time period when infidelity most often happens
Reunion – This is the period of the marriage where the couple begins to recommit, they have matured, their love has matured and their issues with regard to material gain and paternal caring are dwindling
Explosion – This is the time of intense changes in the married couples life as they deal with the death of parents, the changing of careers and the children leaving the nest and health problems may arise
Completion – A final and full realization of their love
I’m quite excited about reading this book. Have you had a chance to check out this book? I’ll be happy to bring you more when I finished reading it.